Chalk it off as part of my upbringing, or from life experiences - or both ... but I have little tolerance for people who beg for hand outs or try to steal other people's thunder- and/or complain regularly about how horrible things are, but then all they do is complain and never make ANY real effort to CHANGE IT. Being a generous and caring person by default often seems to put a giant target on me for people who have nothing better to do than whine about life and its trials, but then never make the necessary CHANGE(S) to become their own best champion.
There was a quote hanging up in one of my favorite teacher's classes - a famous Star Wars Yoda Quote:
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or DO NOT,
there is no TRY"
This quote was often reiterated to me via one of my Step-fathers - he would take a pencil or a pen, or a cup - whatever was handy really - and sit it in the center of the table or counter.
He would then say, "Now 'try' to move it" ... the usual response was to nudge the item with a finger, or actually pick it up. He would then say, "NO, I said to 'try' to pick it up, not for you to actually pick it up." He's get this smirk on his face as he watched the pupil of the lesson puzzle it out. As teens and tweens we would turn into smart asses and nudge the item and pull back a hand "There. We TRIED." And we'd giggle like silly girls.
We got to see this same scenario play out for others during barbecues and family weekends ... and every time, the person would be confused. "What do you mean, TRY?" or "This is stupid, I can't TRY to pick it up, because you tell me that's NOT what you asked me to do!"
The point was made. There's no such thing as 'try' , not really - in some cases it can be a valiant effort made toward something - running a marathon, losing weight, achieving a goal, but then, you ACCOMPLISHED that goal, didn't you?! ... the beautiful thing is that often times, if you are actually making an effort ie: "trying" you WILL see results. "Trying" is the act of "DOING" ... if you sit around and do NOTHING, you are not TRYING.
The difference between those who make effort work for them are also those that are good at compartmentalizing and goal setting. They break their efforts into smaller bits and accomplishing those bits one at a time.
When you are trying to eat a metaphorical elephant, how do you do it? ONE - BITE - AT - A - TIME.
If you are trying to lose 65 lbs you break it down into feasible steps - you don't sit around eating cake and candy for a week and then freak out when you've GAINED weight- do you?! You don't sit around and make half hearted attempts at eating better and then huck the scale out a window when you've only lost water weight!
You start by eliminating the junk foods, then you walk more, then you pay attention to making better choices - take the stairs instead of elevator- walk the kids to the bus stop instead of waving them off -- By end of week one, you may have only lost 3 lbs - but you don't freak out because you haven't lost 65 lbs in one week - chances are likely it took you years to gain it, it may take years to lose it too!
You take that 3 lbs and aim to lose another 3 lbs the next week and another 3 lbs in the successive weeks- after 4 weeks you will have lost 12 lbs, and be 12 lbs closer to your goal. You keep setting goals and then making the steps to accomplish them. When things get tough is when you should dig in MOST!
It works the same with everything. If you believe you "can't", then you won't. ...
Shanna Stott, Artist, Writer, Mommy
Shanna Stott is an artist creator and visionary capable of any artistic medium put in front of her ... follow her as she shares what she does as she sees the world through artist goggles and Little Rue's perspectives ...!